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What is Domestic Abuse? Domestic abuse isn’t just about physical violence. The official UK definition describes it as “any incident or pattern of controlling, coercive, threatening, degrading and violent behaviour, including sexual violence, in the majority of cases by a partner or ex-partner, but also by a family member or carer.” That’s the legal definition. But if you’re living it, you might not see it in such clear terms. You might just feel like you’re constantly treading carefully, trying not to say or do the wrong thing. You might feel drained, anxious, or like you’ve lost your sense of self. Maybe you wonder if it’s really abuse—after all, they don’t hit you, or they apologise after, or they tell you it’s your fault.

Mother’s Day often evokes warm and fuzzy feelings—celebrations of love, gratitude, and appreciation. But for many, this holiday can stir up complicated emotions, especially when relationships with mothers or mothers-in-law are strained or even toxic. Whether it’s a difficult mother-daughter dynamic, a challenging mother-son relationship, or tension with a mother-in-law, these relationships are not always simple. If you’re finding yourself in one of these situations, you’re not alone, and there are ways to navigate these tricky waters. Let’s talk about how these relationships can become difficult, the red flags of toxicity to watch out for, and some practical tips for improving those connections.

In my February blog, we explored the concept of “Older Child Syndrome”, unpacking the unique challenges and traits often experienced by firstborns. This topic was part of a broader discussion in the blog “Navigating Strained Sibling Relationships: A Path to Healing and Harmony”, where we delved into how sibling dynamics can shape us well into adulthood. In that post, we focused on the role of the eldest child and how their early family experiences contribute to their adult behaviours and relationships. Now, in this continuation, we’re going to dive deeper into the experiences of middle children and youngest children. Just as firstborns can carry certain traits into adulthood, middle and younger siblings often face their own sets of challenges and behaviours that stem from their roles within the family. Understanding these dynamics is key to personal growth and healthier relationships.

Let’s be honest—work isn’t just about what you do. It’s about who you do it with. The relationships we build in the workplace play a huge role in how we feel about our jobs. When these relationships are positive, it creates an environment where we can thrive. But when they break down, it can have devastating effects on our mental health, leading to stress, anxiety, and even time off work.

If you’re reading this, it’s likely because you’re feeling the weight of a strained family relationship—specifically, a relationship with a sibling. And I want you to know, right from the start, that I completely understand how challenging this can feel. Growing up, we’re often led to believe that sibling relationships are meant to be full of laughter and support, but in reality, they can be quite complicated. And sometimes, things just don’t turn out that way.

Whether you’re reading this as a long-time client or someone new exploring how to improve your relationships, it’s important to recognise that relationships are central to our lives. We experience various kinds, from romantic relationships to friendships, family bonds, and even professional connections. While each type is different, there is one common thread that can either make or break them: communication. Today, I want to explore how relationships break down when communication falters, why this happens, and how to rebuild those connections with healthier communication.

As someone who has gone through the devastating experience of intimate partner violence (IPV), I understand how deeply it can affect your sense of self and your ability to trust others, especially in the context of emotional intimacy. After surviving domestic abuse, whether physical, emotional, or psychological, your world can feel shattered. The idea of trusting again—both yourself and a new partner—can feel terrifying. But it’s important to know that healing is possible. In this blog, I want to share my perspective, having walked that difficult path, and offer insight into how one can rebuild trust, re-establish emotional intimacy, and how a supportive partner can play a crucial role in this healing process.

Domestic violence and intimate partner violence (IPV) are pervasive issues affecting millions of individuals each year. These forms of abuse manifest in various ways, including physical, emotional, sexual, and financial abuse. Recognising the factors leading someone into a toxic relationship, understanding the dynamics at play, and identifying red flags are crucial steps in breaking the cycle of violence.